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A Great New Cushion for Meditation or Any Prolonged Sitting

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I don't usually write about such purely practical matters in this blog, but I recently came across a seat cushion that makes long meditation sessions much more comfortable. It is called the Ergo 21 Original Cushion and it utilizes a new technology of a thin membrane containing a low-viscosity fluid on top of a piece of regular foam. It is the thin layer of fluid that makes such a difference in comfort when sitting for longer periods of time, whether for meditation or work or travel. The cushion is actually fairly thin with only an inch and a half of foam beneath the liquid membrane, and when you first sit down, it is not remarkable in any way. But after half an hour or more, the increased comfort becomes obvious.

Very simply, it prevents pressure points from happening much better than other foam, gel, or air based cushions so that you do not develop soreness in your 'sitz' bones or tailbone. This allows you to be much more still and stationary during long meditations. I have recently been meditating for 3-4 hours a day and often for 90 minutes at a time, and this cushion is a life saver, or should I say butt saver. I also spend a fair amount of time on the computer and telephone, and this cushion makes all of my sitting activities much more comfortable.

I will not be making this whole blog into a blog about products designed to make meditation or life more comfortable going forward, but I thought there might be some other meditators out there who would appreciate this cushion. And anyone who sits a lot for any reason will probably appreciate it also.

Here is a link to buy it on Amazon: http://amzn.to/1J9GNjf

They also offer a sport model with thicker foam under the liquid membrane for use on surfaces that have little or no existing cushioning: http://amzn.to/1BB2HNe

And here is a link to the company's website: https://ergo21.com/ for more information. The owner, Steve Gambhir, meditates himself and is a pleasure to speak with if you have any questions. They do offer a full money back guarantee and will work with you to make sure you are satisfied. (Note: I do not have any financial affiliation with this company, I just like the cushion.)


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Diving into All of Reality versus the Habit of Belief

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 I received a reply to my ealier blog post entitled, A Tiny Paddle on the River of Life, with a follow up question:

Q: I tried the experiment with thinking negative and positive thoughts. And I found that very few of the thoughts that I think actually come true in the short term. But I have the following doubts: The  experiment works for short term thoughts but what about deep underlying belief systems of fear, lack of self-esteem, and suspicion of people close to you. What I found is that these belief systems seem so overpowering when they are active that one is not unable to let go of them. Why do they seem so solid and so difficult to overcome, when ultimately they are only thoughts?

A: Beliefs do seem to have a strong effect on our lives, but what is a belief other than a habitual thought - a thought that you repeat often? Another aspect of having a habitual thought or belief is that it can start to operate unconsciously. It can start to run in the background, and it can also be present as an assumption in many other thoughts that you consciously have. For example, a overall belief that life is dangerous is being assumed whenever you are have a thought about what could go wrong or how you might be hurt.

This repetition, both conscious and unconscious, of a particular thought is exactly what makes a belief seem so real and solid. Repitition gives the thought more apparent importance and weight. We are also strongly conditioned to think that our own thoughts are important and true. Notice how many times in an argument, someone says, "Well that's what I think!" as if that is all the evidence needed to prove their point! And so when a thought habitually appears often in our mind, it supports the illusion that it is somehow very true and real.

It is, as you say, still just a thought, but it is also a habit. And the best approach to any habit that is not working for you is to create a new habit instead. It does not usually work to go to battle with the old habit as that just paradoxically reinforces it. But if you create a new habit instead and that becomes the new normal, then you are simply too busy with the new habit to do the old habit.

The steps to creating a new habit including a new habit of belief (or a new habit of paying attention to something other than belief) are:

1- Become very curious about the old habit. You do not need to change it or try to get rid of it, but simply explore it enough to really know how it works or does not work for you.

2- Invent a new habit or habits that work as well or even better than the old habit. So for example, if the old habit of fearful thoughts and beliefs was intended to protect you, find a new habit or habits that also can serve to protect you. For example, a new habit of being very curious about what is happening right now can protect you by helping you be very aware of your surroundings and what is actually happening in each moment that you might need to protect yourself from. But to be really effective, this new habit would ideally be the habit of being curious about everything because you never really know what can turn out to be harmful. And so of course, being curious in this way would mean that you do not just focus just on what you believe might hurt you, but on everything that is happening. Along with protecting you better than the old habit of referring to your beliefs about what will happen, this new habit will also make your life richer and more interesting. Note: You can also create new more positive beliefs to simply replace the old habitual beliefs, and this is especially useful when the old beliefs are negative. So, you could just write down a bunch of new positive beliefs/thoughts to think instead as your new habit

3- Make the effort to practice the new habit every day. Set aside some time where you consciously take at least 15-20 minutes out of your day to actively practice the new habit. So in the example of a new habit to replace fearful beliefs, you would spend 15-20 minutes a day repeating out loud a series of new positive beliefs, or spend that time being intensely curious about what is happening right now, and then right now and then again, right now. You can do this even more often if you like, especially at first. Even if you do not "believe" the new thoughts at first, just practice saying them out loud anyways. You do not need to try and "believe" them....just think them out loud or write them down over and over again. Again a belief is just a thought you have repeated a lot, so you can turn the positive thoughts into beliefs just by repeating them a lot, even without pretending or tying to believe them at first while you are simply repeating them.

4- Continue with number 3 until the new habit starts happening on its own. So continue until you notice that you are just spontaneously thinking the new positive thoughts or being intensely curious even when you are not "practicing" doing so. The goal is to have the new habit be as automatic and ultimately mostly unconscious as the old habit. This requires effort at first, and then eventually it does not require any particular effort once the new habit is automatic and happening spontaneously.

Specifically in dealing with beliefs, I would be sure to include the option of paying attention to something other than belief as one of the new habits, as in the example above of being very curious about what is happening in each new moment. Ultimately, even positive beliefs are limiting as just like the positive thoughts in the experiment that I suggested to you in my previous email, our beliefs are only true once in a while. So even if you create a set of new positive beliefs, they will still limit you somewhat, although practically speaking, positive beliefs are generally much less limiting than negative beliefs.

So it helps in this case to also create a completely new habit of paying attention to everything else that is here other than belief or thought. What else is here right now beside your thoughts? And even, what else is here besides your thoughts and besides your body? There is a whole world of experience here to explore beyond "my" thoughts and "my" body. You can even ask, what else is here besides my mind and body, and also besides this entire world of form and objects. What about awareness itself? What happens when you create a new habit of paying attention to the space of awareness itself?

This is your life and your awareness. Why not spend it on things that serve you well and that you enjoy? If there is a habit of any kind that is limiting you, then just create a new habit that works better. And ultimately, the best new habit is the habit of questioning, exploring, inquiring, discovering and uncovering all of the many dimensions of reality beyond our inherently limited thoughts. Thoughts are not ever bad or wrong, but they are simply very small realities. After all every thought you have ever had has fit between your ears, so how big can they really be?! Reality is infinite and most of it exists outside of the space between your ears, so why not make a habit of diving into and paying attention to all of reality?

I hope this is helpful.


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