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Choosing Love by Gina Lake Only $0.99 Through March 31st

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Gina's book, Choosing Love: Moving from Ego to Essence in Relationships is available for just $0.99 (Reg. $4.99) on all of the major ebookstores for a limited time through the end of this month. Here is more info and links to purchase:

Choosing Love ebook for $0.99Are you sabotaging the love that is possible in your relationships? Have you ever wished you could unlock the love that is your true nature and express it fully? Choosing Love offers a spiritual approach to transforming relationships by showing you how to let go of your preconceived ideas and judgments. By moving beyond your ego and conditioning, you can create a richer, more loving life for yourself and those you care about. You have the power to determine how much love you experience in any given moment.

Choosing Love provides profound insights and practical advice about how the ego interferes with love and happiness; moving beyond romantic illusions; recognizing, finding, and sustaining a meaningful relationship; overcoming anger, judgments, criticism, and resentment; resolving issues like infidelity, money, commitment, sexual differences; and seeing the Divine in another.

Ebook versions are just $0.99 for a limited time until March 31st (reg. $4.99)

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Choosing Love has received 72 Five Star Reviews on Amazon (out of 77 total)!! Here are some sample reviews:

“This book has changed my life beyond words.” —Denise A. Hummel

“This book changed my perception of, not only myself, but of how others are and how they react to life's issues. It has changed my life. I no longer feel the need to judge how others are living their lives, and mine has become so much more simple, rich, and stress free. This book has helped me to let go of my ego and move into living in the essence of life. I’m living in essence, not the ego, and loving it!” -Kas

Choosing Love is filled with crucial ideas that help shed some much-needed light on the true nature of love and its higher possibilities.” —Guy Finley, author of The Essential Laws of Fearless Living

"If you like Eckhart Tolle and Byron Katie, you will love this book. Even if you don't know who those people are, you will probably love this book. It points out how our conditioning (ego) tends to mess up our relationships with others, and shows us how we can free ourselves from that conditioning to end up with happy, healthy relationships with ourselves and others... When I started reading, I started marking pages with meaningful quotes that I thought would be nice to share. Not far into the book, I realized that there were too many great quotes to mark them all, so I gave up. This book ranks in my top ten favorite books by spiritual teachers (or happiness teachers if you prefer that term). I'm sure you'll love it." —James Carland

“I have read a lot of spiritual books in my life, but this book is probably the most helpful book I have ever read. In this book, Gina Lake describes how our conditioning runs our relationships and ultimately makes us unhappy and resentful in them. The detail and clarity with which she describes the common dynamic in relationships can help anyone to notice their tendencies that create suffering, and in-turn, help anyone to begin to act more from essence or presence rather than from conditioning. I honestly give this book the highest recommendation I could possibly give to a book. Regardless of whether you think your romantic relationship is going wonderfully well or filled with suffering, regardless of whether you are in a romantic relationship or not, this book can help you to experience more peace and love in all of your different types of relationships in life.”—Noah

“This is a must-read book...  Every sentence of this book is a gem. This book can save a lot of suffering especially in relationships.  I feel blessed to have found this absolutely beautiful book. I bought not just this book but also the audible edition just to drive the message deep in my mind.  This is a book you would want to read over and over again.  It gives an excellent understanding about why we do what we do or why we choose the one we do. It helps us change the relationship we have with our judgments and thoughts and conditioning. The advice she gives is practical and easy to implement. Gina's compassion is evident from her beautiful words.  An exceptionally talented author.” –Puneet Mehrotra

"This is by far the best book on conscious relationship written to date. Easy, short, and to-the-point, this amazing book transmits an energy while helping you get back in touch with your Essence. As a relationship coach and workshop facilitator, I thought there weren't any books that had new or better information. I was wrong. This one is full of practical understandings that help you see how your conditioning is often running the show, not Who You Really Are. Whether with a partner or attracting your next relationship, this book will assist you immensely in deepening your experience of Self, coming back to your center, and making your relationship a win-win. This book transmits the wisdom that you can apply in this very moment to every relationship in your life, not just romantic ones!" —Dr. Talia Miller, relationship coach and workshop leader

“Within the space of reading the first two chapters, I have already made several changes that have helped my relationship to be more loving! I love the simplicity and clarity of Gina's writing. I have had several clear ‘Aha’ moments. One of these was reading the sentence 'Ideas are just ideas.' I realized just how much value and importance I have put on ideas above and beyond an appreciation of What Is. The book is so easy to understand and to put into practice straight away. Really helpful guidance on practicing. I have read many other books with the same message, but this one is impossible to ignore and really helped me to implement the suggestions. Recommended both to those currently in a relationship and also those who are single. I encourage you to BUY thus book and start practicing NOW. You CAN have a truly loving relationship!” –Esther Danmeri

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Your Happiness Does Not Depend on Doing Anything....or on Not Doing Anything!

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Q: I just read your article titled "Motivation After Spiritual Awakening" (http://endless-satsang.com/motivation-after-awakening.htm).

I am suffering from the exact same situation. After 35 years of meditation, I seem to have entered a space of deep contentment and a loss of that ego that used to rule me. But at the same time, I seem to have lost that drive and motivation too. It seems to feel like "What is the use? When I already have such happiness, why bother to set goals and achieve more? All that leads to the same happiness again, so why bother?"

But then I followed your advice in that article and went deep into my happiness and I find that I have a deep wish for perfection in and around my life. This particularly seems to include perfection of my website which I have left half done due to lack of motivation. At one level there seems a deep need to complete that website and make it perfect, high-quality, productive and humming with health. On the other hand, there is no motivation to do the actual work. What do I do? I seem deeply mired in this conflict.

I would be really grateful  for your advice and help.

A: Given your particular situation with your website, I would invite you to try the second approach offered in the blog post you mentioned. See what happens if you just start working on your website. Does the motivation kick in once you are actually doing the activity? Very often, motivation shows up once we are already doing something. Or does the internal conflict you feel get stronger when you just bite the bullet and start working on your website?

If the motivation appears once you are working on the website, then that would strongly suggest that it is a deeper motivation coming from your appreciation for perfection. Although perfection is not something we ever actually achieve, the desire to move in that direction can be an expression of our essential love for life and all its forms. Once the motivation is flowing, then your inner conflict should subside. This may be something that you need to repeat every day until the website is finished. In other words, even if you get motivated today by simply starting to work on your website, you may still wake up tomorrow with no motivation. Then you will just need to kick start the engine again by jumping into the activity of creating your website.

However, if you try this approach and push yourself to get started on the website, but then find that the inner sense of conflict just gets stronger no matter how long you stay at the activity of working on your website, that is a sign to step back and inquire more deeply into the beliefs or patterns of conditioning that are driving you to work on your website. In other words, if the effort to work on the website just becomes more and more of a struggle when you apply yourself to the task, then it is more likely that the impulse to perfect your website is coming from a more superficial part of your ego's conditioning. What do you really want? Is a website, or in particular, a "perfect" website actually necessary to finding peace and joy in your life?

You may also discover as you actually work on your website that there is a mix of deeper and truer inspiration and also some layers of your conditioning that are not as true or meaningful. In that case, you may feel naturally and effortlessly motivated by some of the actions you take regarding your website, and then find that other things you attempt to accomplish leave you feeling conflicted or dry and even less motivated to continue. By listening carefully to your own inner responses to each step of your process, you may be able to fine tune your goals and efforts to truly reflect what is most true for you now, and leave behind the expectations or demands that are activated in your ego by the process.

This obviously is something that you can also apply in any area of your life where there is an inner conflict around motivation. As long as there is no harm in trying, you can simply get started to see what you can discover about how true the motivation really is or isn't. A simple example is how often we do not feel particularly motivated to exercise, but then when we get started we feel inspired. And especially when we are all done, then we feel really good about it!

Finally, there is a little shortcut that can help you more quickly distinguish if a motivation is true for you, and also give you some of the energy and motivation you need to get started. The trick is to take a moment and imagine how you will feel when you are done doing a particular activity. If it feels good and true to imagine being all done, that is a sign that it is a true direction for you in that moment. It is like trying on a sweater in the store to see if it fits. You "try on" the experience of completing the activity in your imagination and if it "fits" and feels good, that is a pretty good sign that it will also feel good if you get up and get started doing it. Imagining it all done is often also in itself motivating, so in this case the motivation can start to kick in even before you start the activity. So, what happens right now if you imagine your website as all done and looking good? Does that increase your motivation and reduce your sense of inner conflict? If so, then why not get started?

Life is full of things that are not always inherently motivating like hard exercise, or doing your taxes, or maybe even the actual long, hard work of creating a website. But if you imagine how it would feel when you are finished, that can give you a truer picture of how valuable and worthwhile an activity is for you, and it can unlock some of the motivation you need to start accomplishing the task at hand. One caveat in using this approach: some tasks are so big and difficult that even when we imagine having completed them, it is not enough to overcome the resistance we feel to getting started. In those cases, it can help to break a large task down into bite-sized pieces, and imagine how it will feel to get them done. For example, you can imagine how it would feel to get a particular page of your website done. If that feels good, it can motivate you to get started doing that particular page.

As for your bigger question of why bother when life is already so full of peace and contentment, I would suggest that there are many levels of truth, and they can all be true simultaneously. What a blessing that you have found the true source of happiness that does not actually depend on what you do or what you accomplish. And at the same time, here you are, life is happening, and you will be doing something for the next few hours (even if that is just sitting on your couch). Why not  allow yourself to do the things that are the most inspiring and seem the most worthwhile? Your happiness still does not depend on doing them, but it also does not depend on not doing them!

I hope this helps :)

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